Damned if you do, damned if you don't. How many times have you heard this? More importantly, how many times have you said it about a situation you were in? This is called a double bind: the feeling ...

"I can't win with my mom," laments a young client as she sits on my couch for a first therapy session. "What do you mean, win?" I ask. "If I tell my mom anything about my life, she seems disinterested ...